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10

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Phyllis Adler LCSW-R

" Nature vs. Nurturing the Children! "


CORRESPONDING BLOG PIECE - The Effects of Domestic Violence on Children

By: BettyJean Kling

Phyllis Adler, LCSW-R has 13 years of clinical experience as a Senior Therapist at St. Anne Institute.  She has worked in the Community-Based Services Department for twelve years.  Her work has involved therapy with individuals and families where her authentic style lends a nurturing atmosphere for growth. Phyllis joins TMU BlogTalkRadio on January 6th  at 10 pm Eastern to share her first-hand experiences and take you calls for comments and quests. Please tune in. The show will be available for download on demand 15 minutes after the airing and this blog http://freemenow.wordpress.com/2010/01/06/nature-vs-nurturing-our-children/ will be open before during and after the show for comments and further discussions.

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06
Jan
10

The New Year baby showed up

 

 

The New Year baby showed up..

And was immediately kidnapped by CPS

                 C P S   luvs the     little         children   All the children of the world   Red and

    yellow, black or poor, they are precious for Title four, C P S  luvs the little children of the world

 

 

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06
Jan
10

Can a parent who committed violence get “custody” ? “Here Come da Judge!” by LETSGETHONESTblog

Let’sGetHonestBloghttp://familycourtmatters.wordpress.com/2009/12/19/here-come-da-judge/

 

Not a Private Matter – Why "Family" "Law" System Hurts Us All

“Here Come da Judge!”

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Some times, hard times, a little humor helps me.  I seem to notice things that maybe others don’t (oft-burnt, twice as observant?)…

This is from Womenslaw.org about Custody, and a good question, plus a sidelong plug for (what else) supervised visitation. . . .  And no absolute commitment either way on this topic:

Can a parent who committed violence get “custody” or “visitation”?

Maybe. It is possible that a parent who has committed violence will get custody or visitation if the court determines that it is in the “best interest of the child” to do so. Generally, judges beleve it is in the child’s best interest to have frequent contact with both parents.*1

{{so, the “court” kind of being the “judge” who signs the order, we get back to what judges generally believe…  For more of that, see the AFCC conference as to what’s being promoted among many of them…}}

Conservatorship / Custody:

If a person is filing for sole or joint managing conservatorship, the court will consider whether the person has been abusive toward his/her spouse, the parent of the child and any person under 18 years old within the 2 years before filing for conservatorship or during the proceeding. A judge may deny joint managing conservatorship if s/he finds that there is a history or pattern of child neglect or physical or sexual abuse of a parent, spouse or child.*2

{{then, again, they also may not.  Sounds like a toss-up to me…}}

The judge may not {{OR, may…}} appoint joint managing conservators if reliable evidence is presented of a history or pattern of past or present child neglect, or physical or sexual abuse by one parent directed against the other parent, a spouse, or a child. *3

Likewise, the court [[as opposed to "the judge?"] will consider {{but will it act on?}} any incident of family violence in deciding whether to deny, restrict, or limit the possession of a child by a parent who is appointed as a possessory conservator.*4

Possession and Access / Visitation:

If a parent has been violent within the last two years before filing or during the court proceedings, a judge may {{or may not, we have no committed policy here, right?}} deny that parent possession of or access to the child unless:

the judge decides that allowing the parent access is not a danger to the child and is in the best interest of the child; and
the judge approves a possession order that will protect the child and any other victim from the abusive parent. The order may require:

  • supervised access;  {{Here’s the Business Model…}}
    exchange of the child in a protective setting
    (see note below);
    that the parent not drink alcohol and not use any drugs within 12 hours before or during the time the child is with him/her; or  {{See my comments on Oconto, Wisconsin, where the father was caught DUI with the daughter in the car, but still it was the MOTHER who was jailed for failing to force the daughter back into that situation.}}
    that the parent attend a batterer’s prevention program or any program the judge finds appropriate. *5

Tell the judge if you have gotten a protective order within the last 2 years against the parent seeking possession of and access to your child. The judge will consider this when determining whether there is a history of family violence.*6

{{Note:  Some women get SMART after the first several violent incidents, and survive more than 2 years in a relationship before someone shows them how to get out.  In this case, asking what happened in the last 2 years may not indicate that the father/husband/partner has reformed or settled down, or repented, but simply that the mother/wife/partner simply got cagier and smarter in how to avoid them.  As many abusers also are control freaks, as toa ccess to transportation and ways to escape their abuse, this may involve shutting down emotionally, and teaching the kids to also, i.e., “walking on eggshells.”  how many judges take the time to tell the difference?}}

Note: If the abuser is granted possession and access to your child, ask the court or a local domestic violence program for information about visitation centers or visitation exchange facilities in your county if you think that is a good option for you.

GOT THIS?  The judge MAY respect the danger of domestic violence, or the judge MAY instead choose to drop-kick the problem to some cronies in the supervised visitation field.

{{Which of course they will prime you to.  . . .. . I asked for this, and was of course, not told that there is federal funding for this, but not available so readily for MOMS…  Not being incarcerated, an abuser, or behind on my child support (as the custodial mother), there was no outreach program to help me.  And as I wasn’t preventing access, that wasn’t an issue.  Thanks, dudes for rewarding me for compliance and good-faith allowing regular access to my growing (and healing) children by totally removing them from me, failing to enforce child support — at all, practically — and allowing him after custody switch to totally cut off contact, failing to report felony child-stealing (meaning, no Victims of Crime compensation), and no help after this event trashed my jobs.  Thanks.  Merry Christmas to all, and let’ em eat cake…}}

It is assumed by the court that it is not in the best interest of a child for a parent to have unsupervised visitation with the child if there is credible evidence of a history or pattern of past or present child neglect or physical or sexual abuse by that parent directed against the other parent, a spouse, or a child. *7

*1 Tex. Fam. Code § 153.131
*2 Tex. Fam. Code § 153.004(a)
*3 Tex. Fam. Code §153.004(b)
*4 Tex. Fam. Code § 153.004(c)
*5 Tex. Fam. Code § 153.004(d)
*6 Tex. Fam. Code § 153.004
*7 Tex. Fam. Code § 153.004(e)

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(Since I’ve already dated, if not geographically marked (as to California) myself, I’ll go one step further and admit, this “well, it depends. . . .. ” approach to whether an abuser (or “a parent who has committed violence”) can get custody of a child approach reminded me (see highlit words, above) on the old comedy routine:

“Here Comes Da Judge!”

A little more judicial humor, even more dated (i.e., not my own…):

THE INSCRUTABLE WORKINGS OF PROVIDENCE

My last blog{{whoever this is...}}, on the rather bland exchanges between lawyers and justices of the U.S. Supreme Court, gave me a craving for red meat. So I pulled out my copy of Winston Churchill's marvelous little book, Great Contemporaries, and I turned to the essay on F.E. Smith, a lawyer who later became the first Earl of Birkenhead. Smith was famous for his stilletto wit, which once drew a pompous rebuke from a presiding judge: "Mr. Smith, have you ever heard a saying by Bacon -- the great Bacon -- that youth and discretion are ill-wedded companions?"  "Yes I have," came the instant repartee. "And have you ever heard a saying of Bacon -- the great Bacon -- that a much-talking judge is like an ill-tuned cymbal?"  Taken aback, the judge resorted to scolding, "You are extremely offensive, young man,"  "As a matter of fact," said Smith, "we both are; but I am trying to be, and you can't help it."  The judge, who apparently had never heard of citing a lawyer for contempt, came back for another drubbing: ""What do you suppose I am on the bench for, Mr. Smith?"  "It is not for me, your honor, to attempt to fathom the inscrutable workings of Providence."  That kind of exchange is something we we will never hear in oral arguments before the Supreme Court. Americans are much too dignified for any such thing. Posted on January 9, 2006 10:40 PM | Permalink 
OR:
If I want to quote a Supreme Court justice who was genuinely funny, I usually turn to Oliver Wendell Holmes (1841-1935).Among my favorite Holmes stories is the one concerning how he was supposed to lecture at a college, and discovered that he had arrived at an insane asylum by mistake. The justice was philosophical. “Oh well,” he said to the guard, “I don’t suppose that there is a great deal of difference.”  For once, the legal eagle was topped. “With great respect, Mr. Justice,” the guard replied, “there is. Before they let you out of this place, you have to show some improvement.” Posted on January 2, 2006 7:53 PM | Permalink
 

More, “HERE COME DA JUDGE” info:

Here comes the Judge!

Here comes the judge!

The court's in session!

The Funky Judge! Updated 8.28.02

  That’s right. 1968 was the year of the funky craze (see last issue’s Soul With An African Twist). It may not have showed up on t

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06
Jan
10

Compelling stories from parents and grandparents about problems with placement and removal of children KSWATCHDOG

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Compelling stories from parents and grandparents about problems with placement and removal of children

 

By Earl Glynn On December 4, 2009http://kansas.watchdog.org/2009/12/04/compelling-stories-about-problems-with-placement-and-removal-of-children/

 

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State Rep Mike Kiegerl (R-Olathe), Chair, Joint Committee on Children's Issues

State Rep Mike Kiegerl, Chair, Joint Committee on Children’s Issues

Compelling stories told by parents and grandparents in Topeka on Monday need to be heard outside the hearing room of the Joint Committee on Children’s Issues.   Kansas has some serious problems with the placement and removal of children from homes, and the legislature needs to fix the problems.

Listen to the audio clips of these parents and grandparents below.  Read through the selected quotations if listening takes too much time for you.  In some of the cases, the prepared statements are also included below, if you want even more details.

Earlier this week the Kansas Watchdog reported about parents and grandparents asking why children were removed from homes and this blog posting extends that coverage.

Listen to opening remarks by State Rep Mike Kiegerl (R-Olathe), Chair of the Joint Committee :


SRS Secretary Don Jordan explains policies

SRS Secretary Don Jordan explains policies

Kiegerl asked SRS Secretary Don Jordan to describe policies, procedures, practices that deal with foster care placement, child removal, adoption and family restoration.

“This is by far … the most sensitive and emotional area in which we deal.”

Jordan’s comments here are limited to what he said about the removal of children from the home (his full comments were about an hour long):


Kiegerl gave this introduction for the remaining speakers:

“The Committee has been contacted by about 60 individuals, parents, grandparents, foster care givers, and guardians ad litem, who experienced substantial problems in how children were removed, placed, and handled. Some of these people will testify today, and some of their assertions will be troublesome and critical. They will be highly critical of the delivery system as it is currently in place. Indeed, some of these stories are hard to believe.”   …

“The stories we are going to hear today that are troubling — there’s always two sides to each story.”

Chair Kiegerl asked SRS Secretary Jordan to look one more time at these cases and respond to the committee so both sides of the story may be known.

Chair Kiegerl asked those testifying to stay with factual information and avoid opinions not supported by facts:

“Explain your experience. Tell us what happened. And what response you got to your inquiries. Or, whether you did get a response. Do not mention case workers’ names, do not mention supervisors’ names, do not mention SRS employee names, … do not mention the contractors’ name. … This is a fact finding mission, where we need to find out what has gone wrong in these particular cases and to prevent that type of situation to recur for the children’s sake. for the sake of the Agency, for the sake of society as a whole.”

The entries below are listed in chronological order from the presentations on Monday


“Valros”

Valorie Rosproy:

Valros: "because I reported the abuse I got my children taken from me and they were sent back to their abuser"

I went to file for a divorce to get out of a domestic violence situation … to get me and my kids out of a domestic violence situation … “

“… because I reported the abuse — I didn’t report it my son did — I got my children taken from me and they were sent back to their abuser … Now they’re in SRS custody …”

Chair Kiegerl:  “What went wrong?”

Valros:  “I think it began with the case manager having too much authority in this case. She was able to write court orders … There was never a 72-hour hearing. “

Kiegerl: “… If I understand you correctly, the breakdown occurred mainly in the judicial administration…?”

Licensed Master Social Worker Debbie Wilson testifed in support of Valorie Rosproy

Licensed Master Social Worker, Debbie Wilson, testifed in support of Valros

Debbie Wilson:  “… It’s almost as if they want to brush everything under the rug …”

“… All I know is what didn’t happen…”

Sen. Oletha Faust-Goudeau (D-Wichita): “It says that Valorie could not report abuse or neglect of the boys to the school. What was the reason … ?

Wilson: “I think at that point they felt she was leading the boys, but I don’t know how the case manger came to that conclusion. It wasn’t just Valorie making those reports. It was an independent therapist …”

“You’re talking about two little boys who have told and told and told … and no one has done anything about it.”

Kiegerl: “… The system has broken down and really hurt these little boys. It’s something we just need to make sure never happens again.”

Listen to ValRos:

Listen to Debbie Wilson:


Marilyn Dilley

Read details in written statement.

“A three year old boy was placed in our home …”

“In the winter of 2009, our agency lost the contract with the state of Kansas to provide foster care services.”

“A case worker at the new agency was assigned ….”

“… we realized that … [the] caseworker lied to the judge …”

“She lied to us & she lied to this 4 year old boy.”

“We still want to adopt him”

Listen to Marilyn Dilley:


Amanda Coppenbarger

Kids of abused mom Amanda Coppenbarger are now in foster care

Kids of abused mom Amanda Coppenbarger are now in foster care

“My daughter [said] my stepfather had sexually molested her”

“My husband choked me … I told him to leave and filed for divorce”

“I kept in contact with Child Protection Services and followed their recommendations”

“My kids were taken into protective custody based on a report … that my ex-husband and two stepsons made allegations that I coached them about the sexual abuse”

“I have not received a 30 day deposition hearing and reintegration plan”

My 11 year old daughter “asked to talk to the judge when she was 10 and she was denied”

Chair Kiegerl: “Was he [your husband] arrested as a consequence of his actions?”

Coppenbarger: “I didn’t file a police report — I was scared.”

Earlier “I did file a police report, it was dropped. Regardless of the bruises on my back, the scar on my leg, they dropped it.”

Vice Chair Sen. Julia Lynn (R-Olathe): “You believe the ball was dropped by the DA’s office?”

Coppenbarger: “It was”

Kiegerl: “Where are your children now?”

Coppenbarger: “They’re in foster care”

Listen to Amanda Coppenbarger:


Clarence Wonsetler

Clarence Wonsetler spent $10,000 on legal bills to get his granddaughter back

Clarence Wonsetler spent $10,000 on legal bills to get his granddaughter back

Read details in written statement.

“We believe SRS and CPS Private Contractor have violated our civil and constitutional rights”

“Even though my wife and I were approved for placement of my granddaughter, agencies in Kansas place her in approximately 8 different foster homes”

“We were told that we could not have our granddaughter because we were too old”

“We were finally able to get [her] back into the home but only after having to payout approximately $10,000 in legal fees”

“These are crimes against humanity and should be stopped and changed so it never happens to another family”

“Our case is no longer in court, but we … are here to bear witness to the atrocities that continue to occur to thousands of children in the state of Kansas”

Listen to Clarence Wonsetler:


Cecillia Arnold

Cecillia Arnold lost her parental rights.  Wants her kids back.

Abused mom Cecillia Arnold lost her parental rights. She wants her kids back.

“I did all court orders and my girls were placed back home with me”

“The case workers changed many times. I couldn’t get through to them sometimes.”

“The reintegration itself … was going well”

“I had stability. I had a home. I had a job. I had everything that they would ask someone to do for reintegration to occur.”

“My abuser … was going to jail at the time at the time the girls were removed from home. He was incarcerated for, I think, it was two years for the crime he committed against me.”

“The girls were removed from home for the second time.”

“The assistant [Sedgwick County] DA … filed a petition for termination [of parental rights], and after … the trial termination was granted.”

“As of now I have not seen my children since March of this year”

“During the trial I had testimony from different people — the foster care parents … — their testimony was overlooked.”

“… bad experiences with DCCA …”

“They said the reason for termination was … me not following the reintegration plan. That was not true.”

“… the ball got dropped on me from the Agency that was contracted through the courts … They didn’t do the job that they were supposed to do, which resulted in my girls being removed from home”

Senator Oletha Faust-Goudeau: “Her parents are in the audience … They have been denied custody of their grandchildren, too, and told there were too old; they were too sick.”

State Rep Bill Otto (R-LeRoy): “Your rights are severed?”

Arnold: “My rights have been terminated … I have no rights to my children. I have not seen them since March. I filed an appeal that didn’t go anywhere. I’m here today because I want my children back.” …

Otto: “Where was your lawyer?” …

Arnold: “I had court-appointed attorneys … I feel I could have done a better job representing myself” ..

Otto: “This should not happen to anybody … I’m so sorry.” …

Chair Kiegerl: “Your problem mainly is with the courts, although, I’m sure, the agency’s testimony was instrumental in the decision. … My heart goes out to you …I wish there were a magic wand that … we could use to solve your problem.”

Arnold left in tears.

Listen to Cecillia Arnold:

Watch this Kansas Watchdog YouTube Video of Arnold explaining her case.


Sadie Carpenter
Read details in written statement.

“Our great granddaughter …”

“Her mother was arrested for prostitution and child abandonment and put in jail. [She] was turned over to SRS, who placed her into foster care.”

“Facts about the foster woman:
* She is in her late sixties
* She has no visible means of support, other than caring for foster children
* She is a long time smoker, and is an oxygen user”

[She] is being denied the right to grow up with her blood relatives.”

Senator Roger Reitz (R-Manhattan): “This one should not be here. The others were so complicated.”

Secretary Don Jordan: “We’ll look at it right away.”

Listen to Sadie Carpenter:


Claudine Dombrowski

Claudine Dombrowski:  An abused mom victimized again by the Kansas Courts

Claudine Dombrowski: An abused mom victimized again by the Kansas Courts

Read details in written statement.

This is an truly incredible story that should never have happened in America.

Parts of the Kansas Judicial system should be disciplined for how it has victimized Ms. Dombrowski, who was an abused mom.

Instead of quotes from the audio, please consult these pages that document Dombrowski’s long and difficult battle to protect her daughter:

As you view these photos keep in mind that the court awarded FULL CUSTODY of their daughter to the “man” who did this to Claudine.

State Rep Bill Otto: “No crime? You haven’t been guilty of anything? This is a court order that says you can’t go to any school functions?”

“I was under court order till 2004 to not even call the police after I was being beaten because … I was not ‘co-parenting’”

Dombrowski: “These friends of the court make recommendations to the judge. The parents … don’t have a right to see these documents. They do this behind closed doors.”

Otto: (To Secretary Jordan): “You have no rights as a parent …?”

Secretary Don Jordan: “This would be something extreme … I’m not familiar with the situation.”

Otto: “Can a judge do that? … Is that legal… ?”

Jordan: “Under the right circumstances … I hesitate to speculate.”

Sen. Roger Reitz: “This is something that only … the judicial system can really answer … It would be helpful … to have someone … representing the judicial system … to give us some ideas how this could happen.”

Dombrowski: “When you are a victim of domestic violence, and suddenly there’s a child involved, the typical …. power of control is that ‘I’ll take your children from you’. They will and they can the way the laws are setup.” …

“I was told that I’m not to talk to my daughter about the violence. That’s why I don’t see her. That’s why I see her supervised. He was criminally convicted. “

“When women try to get away from people who hurt them … I heard somebody say it’s really hard to believe you won’t call the police … I tell people not to contact the police, because as soon as you walk into court with a DV (domestic violence) and children, you’re already cutting your throat. You will lose your children. That’s the way it is right now.”

“… on the 16th of this month I’ll probably go to jail for breaking the gag order and talking about [being the victim of] violence as it relates to my case.”

Reitz: “… someone ought to be able to deal with this in a way that would address her problem. It doesn’t seem like we’ve done the right thing with regards to this little niche of the law.”

Dombrowski: “The criminal convictions are completely tossed aside and they don’t have any bearing on the family court … The eight criminal convictions that my ex had before getting custody of my daughter were completely dropped [in family court]“

Chair Kiegerl: “I cannot believe that abuse is totally ignored. I cannot believe you can prohibit a person from speaking about their own case.”

“The one thing [where] … I disagree with you is abuse should always be reported.”

State Rep Peggy Mast (R-Emporia): “Domestic violence is a control issue. Sexual abuse is a control issue. Is there any correlation between domestic violence and sexual abuse? Why is that not something that is considered when we take someone to [family] court that has a history of domestic violence?”

Dombrowski: “Yes. That is something I’ve asked myself for 16 years. … It comes back to the family court that has a veil of immunity. … They don’t fully understand the impact of the violence. What battered women have … if they report the abuse, then they’re failing to protect their child … if they don’t report the abuse, they’re still failing to protect their child. So, both ways, they’re going to lose their children …”

For anybody who abuses their wife … [from] a 1996 presidential task force … there is a 70% increase that those children will be abused and/or sexually abused after there’s been battery with the mother.

Sen. Oletha Faust-Goudea: “In 2004 …. I talked with the homicide department in Sedgwick County…. During that time there had been 21 homicides in Sedgwick County and 18 were due to domestic violence …”

“A lot of women do make those phone calls and unfortunately, sometimes it ends in their death.” …

“I want to apologize to you for being treated like a pedophile … not being able to go to a music concert.”

“I commend you for what you’re doing.”

Dombrowski: “I have not talked to my daughter in 10 years [except] for the confines of supervised visits. I’m not allowed to talk to her about anything. All she knows is what her dad has told her.”

Listen to Claudine Dombrowski:


Larry Sneary

“There is significant evidence that my daughter has been abused. This has been downplayed by the courts.”

“Professionals in this case … have used hearsay of one side”

“I feel the main reason my daughter was taken from me was because I reported abuse, my wife reported abuse. My daughter herself reported abuse.”

“My wife and I had to complete psychological evaluations … these evaluations proved my wife and I have no mental illness precluding us from being fit parents.”

“The courts determined that my psychological issues make me an unfit parent and granted guardianship to the maternal grandmother.”

“The grandmother will not allow any type of visitation, not even professionally supervised visitation. ”

“As a father, who previously took care of her from birth, this is pure agony.”

“I will keep fighting for her”

“please pass the protective parent reform bill into law”

Sen Oletha Faust-Goudeau: “There needs to be something presented … to tell him the definite factual reason why he can’t have his wonderful daughter.”

Secretary Don Jordan: “…I believe the petitions that are filed, the orders by the court, are about as specific as you can get…”

Faust-Goudeau: “Excuse me, Secretary. Seriously, I hear that the judge, and the case workers, everyone’s passing the buck.”

Jordan: “The parents should get a very clear reason ….”

Sneary’s wife, Annette: “The only reason the judge determined … because he had a couple of angry incidents. … Everyone has psychological issues. We are not mentally unfit. We are angry. We are emotional. Would you be? …”

Sneary: “No judge in his right mind is going to give custody to a drunken, drug addict. But little did I know what grandma had up her sleeve.”

Listen to Larry Sneary:


Kathy Winters

Grandmoth Kathy Winters fights for custody of her grandchildren

Grandmother Kathy Winters fights system for custody of her grandchildren

“… daughter’s oldest child, her father wanted custody”

“He gave information to CPS. They admitted, a supervisor admitted to me, that they had helped him financially for this information. We found it was all unsubstantiated.”

“The case worker … filed charges, and took my daughter’s children away.”

“We asked them to look at my daughter’s evidence but they never did. They said they didn’t have to.”

“Two court appointed attorneys … said the judge has already made a decision. She has read the reports, which we are not allowed to see. … The GAL (guardian ad litem) had never talked to me or my daughter about her case. He had never investigated on his own.”

“The attorneys told us that she needed to plead ‘no contest’. If she pleaded ‘no contest’ she would get reunification with her children immediately.”

“My daughter plead ‘no contest’, that was three years ago, … and they have severed her rights. She never got her children back.”

“At the first of the case … the CPS worker told me I [the grandmother] would get the three youngest ones — they were involved in the same case.”

“She asked my background. She got all my information. She said we would go to court. The children would be brought to my house. If my house checked out, I would get those children.”

“The little girl … was given to a dad who was on probation for domestic violence. They didn’t even check him out.”

“And even though I was approved for placement for the two boys … they were placed in two separate foster homes. “

“I went back to court and asked for placement of those children …. I got the children out of foster homes … They were in foster care for a week.”

“I had the children for 15 months … “

“In Jan 2008 the case worker told me they were thinking about severing my daughter’s rights.”

“In two meetings the contractors stated the only reason …. was they would lose their grant. “

“To the case worker outside the court room, I said then I want to adopt my … grandsons.”

“They said you can’t because of your age and disability.”

At a mall “the authorized baby sitter had gone to the bathroom and left the two little boys with the 12 year old sister.” …

“When SRS came out to my house they said ‘no problem’”

“My dad became ill. I had to go to Arizona, so the little boys went to their aunt’s … and stayed for a week.”

“My father passed away. The day I cam back from my dad’s funeral, the contractor called me and said ‘I have bad news. We’re severing your daughter’s rights, and we’re removing the boys from your home’.”

“I said, ‘why?’”

“They said, ‘because of the mall.’”

“I said, ‘I didn’t break that safety plan.’”

“She said, ‘it’s not up for discussion. The decision has been made, we’re removing the boys.’”

Winters says she has 11 instances of mistruths under oath in the hearing.

“They took the boys”

“I have made complaints with Don Jordan’s office.”

“I have made complaints about the perjury … with supervisors, contractors, Behavior Sciences Regulatory Board, the FBI …, Office of Civil Rights …, Kansas Attorney General …, Don Jordan’s office …, Johnson County DA’s office … “

“The children have been placed in four different homes.”

Chair Kiergerl explains that Winters is one of his constituents, and he has been to her home, and does not understand why the boys were removed, and not returned, even after his investigation. “Even I couldn’t get a straight answer from the contractor, and frankly I’m disgusted with them. …. I have no reason to believe that Ms. Winters is misstating the case.”

Winters (in response to question from State Rep Bill Otto): “You’ve got to understand: With me the contractors make $0 from the federal government. From foster parents they got $2000/month.”

Sen. Julia Lynn: “This has been going on for …. years. I believe that if we didn’t push this issue, and keep pushing it and pushing it, on behalf of all the people who are here, we would still have business as usual. … I’m hoping we can find some things to solve some of these problems.”

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06
Jan
10

Audio Recording of Meeting with Drex Flott, Kara Haney of Odyssey Group, Topeka Kansas (admissions of abuse by father) en re:allowing granddaughter to go to funeral.

 Parental Alienation Syndrome

In my last post the audio failed to upload to bean pod do the size of file- but in looking around I found that some ones else had it uploaded! Thx Anonymoms

10-29-2008 Meeting with Drex Flott, Kara Haney of odyssey en re: allowing granddaughter to go to funeral.http://anonymoms.blip.tv/file/3035214/

So much for ‘mandated reporting’ huh?- they would loose $$$ if they told the truth.. so the lesson is clear- Abuse for Profit! Thanks Odyssey Kara and Drex and your co-conspirators…

 

“All it takes for evil to succeed is that could be- good men –do nothing”-Edmond Burke

10-29-2008 Meeting with Drex Flott, Kara Haney of odyssey en re: allowing granddaughter to go to funeral.http://anonymoms.blip.tv/file/3035214/

 

Index:

10-29-2008 1h 50m

8:5010:28 begins

13:2914:13 Kara petition what do you want and the court hearing set

16:07 -what is our involvement

17:00- contact with rikki

17:50- they let lacey [the dog] see rikki

18:43- motion 4 hearing asking for normalcy in visits

20:19 -about the motion being filed rikki not on the kid more convenient for dad?

21:45 -dependent upon her peers give her money

22.35- $20.00 to e

22.53 -denied braces no phone-denied contact with her phone

23.55 -it is not up to rikki

25.00 -dad broke my mouth but don’t place psych eval.

26:12- power struggle with courts (I acted out)

27:00 -we deserve this trip together

29:00- I drove twice week I worked at LSH

30:10- rikki –‘granny won’t let dad hurt mom’

30:00 -(15 years)

32:00 KsJudicialperformance act (liz samora

33.00 drex more than we know.

34.00 try loosing a child to an abuser I thought- I had the right to be safe

36:00 my mom my pain not going to let that happen to my daughter.

BMCC two years’ courageous kids

38:00 not a part of my life

39:00

41:00- how come dad don’t love me (rikki)

43:00- rikki is awesome drex says ‘I am in her’ ag ’s office- rikki early years 4 or 5 years old

46:50 – when they took my daughter they took my soul

47:00- letter from hospital

48:50 -contact with GAL braces Aug 6th en re braces

51:58 Rikki says ‘dad is in charge (dont write this down)

53:33- kara a couple of issues 1. Funeral 2. Unsupervised

1:15:30 does rikki want to go en re the court

1:17:15 rikkis voice well rikki says

1:19:50 Kara- ‘rikki does have a very controlled home a lot of external Control

1:21:50 for rikkis safety- choose to disengage as I am not safe for her- this is how are lives are-

1:23:25- admissions of abuse

1:26:40 -how rikki survives- Julie- takes a lot for rikki

1:28:28 Julie is in fear too states Drex-rikki is the best judge

1:30:00 – mother and daughter visits are very empowering very balanced positive strength based

1:33:20 sv is not there gives us freedom rikki and I freedom? to monitor at discretion we don’t need help to nurture our relationship states kara

1:37:23 visits don’t cut my visits drex reintegration reunification

1:38:36 visits went back because julie and rikki to cancel the visit so they just set them back temporary football season-Rikki in a double binder-

1:41:13 – kara -rikki struggled with telling mom no more weekends. drex-  national zone

1:48:40 end

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10-16-2008 Odyssey Report RE: Dombrowski Case 96D217

 

 

 

 

 

Read actual Document here: http://www.scribd.com/doc/15557284/10162008-odessey-report

The Odyssey Group, LLC 2914 SW Plass Court Suite B Topeka, Kansas 66611 (785) 266-7980

December 16,2008 Supervised Visitation

Re: Rikki Dombrowski Case #: 96-D-217 Progress Report:

I was assigned as the worker to this case in August of 2008. I began supervising visits in mid August for 2 hours, one time weekly between Rikki Dombrowski and her mother, Claudine Dombrowski. These visits were scaled back from weekly to bi-weekly, per Rikki’s request in approximately September of 2008. Visits have remained 2 hours, every other week since that time. This worker staffs visit progress with her clinical supervisor, Drex Flott, LSCSW one time weekly and as needed.

During visitation this worker has had no concerns in reference to Rikki’s safety. In addition, this worker must commend Claudine Dombrowski for progress made in not referring to Rikki’s father, Hal Richardson, in a negative manner during any visitation in front of her daughter. It is very apparent when arriving at each visitation that both mother and daughter are excited to see one another.

This worker has spoken with Rikki at length about visitation and it’s progress and limitations. On several occasions Rikki has made her wishes in terms of visitation and her relationship with her mother, very clear to this worker. There have been many times during visitation that Rikki has expressed embarrassment in reference to her mother’s behavior. Rikki has also expressed that she wants visits to remain every other week for 2 hours and does not want them unsupervised at this time. Rikki has expressed much frustration to this worker in relationship to this case and her relationship with her mother. Rikki is a bright teenager with a normal teenage life and an ability to express her wishes and desires clearly. It would be the recommendation of the agency and this worker that visits remain status quo until Rikki indicates that she would like something otherwise. It would also be the recommendation of the agency and this worker that before and during any lengthened or unsupervised visitation there shall be weekly therapeutic work between Rikki and her mother. Rikki states that she loves her mother but is content with the relationship as it stands. This worker supports Rikki’s opinion and trusts that when she is ready Rikki will express a desire for change.

Respectfully Submitted,

Kara Haney, LBSW, MSW Student Intern
Drex Flott, LSCSW

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06
Jan
10

Child Abuse and Domestic Violence

Child Abuse and Domestic Violence


Domestic violence and abuse issues are integrated with the issues of child custody, parental alienation theory, father’s rights, and therapeutic jurisprudence (the influx of psychology into the family court system), etc., so check those sections too. NOTE: The LIZNOTES index page contains links to recommended off-site locations as well as the on-site articles.

  • Index: LIZNOTES Table of Contents

  • Articles and Information that cut through the slop CITATIONS TO RESEARCH; LINKS

  • Battered Mothers’ Testimony Project Report by AZCADV PDF SCHOLAR

  • Beaten, Raped, Robbed: Unmasking "Father’s Rights" Movement by Kathleen Parker ESSAY

  • Coercive Control by Evan Stark DOC SCHOLAR

  • Counter to the "no long-term harm" argument by liz CITATIONS TO RESEARCH

  • Court Order in In Re Sharline Nicholson, et al., March 1, 2002 (NY) PDF SCHOLAR

  • Domestic Violence Bibliography and Reading List by liz CITATIONS TO RESEARCH

  • Domestic Violence by Proxy by Joyanna Silberg, Ph.D. (Leadership Council) SCHOLAR

  • False Memory Movement’s Remedy for a Nonexistent Problem by Judith M. Simon SCHOLAR

  • Fairness and Accuracy in Evaluations of DV and Abuse by Smith and Coukos PDF SCHOLAR

  • Gun Control by Gina Guest ESSAY; CITATIONS TO RESEARCH

  • Issues and Dilemmas in Domestic Violence APA Domestic Violence Taskforce SCHOLAR

  • "Maternal alienation": new research by Anne Morris DOC SCHOLAR

  • Myths and Facts about Young Women’s Violence by Elizabeth Frye Society SCHOLAR

  • 2007 NCJFCJ Judges’ Guide to Custody Evaluations in Cases of Abuse PDF SCHOLAR

  • 2009 NCJFCJ Judges’ Guide to Custody Evaluations in Cases of Abuse PDF SCHOLAR

  • A Mixed and Dangerous Tool (critique of prior guide) by Joan Zorza SCHOLAR

  • Ralph Underwager’s "Litany for Fathers" with Paedika pedophilia comments by liz

  • Ralph Underwager feeling misunderstood and falsely accused by liz

  • Research on young women’s rising arrests, Penn State 2006 RESEARCH PR

  • Stalking Through the Courts: the father’s rights movement by Janet Normalvanbreucher SCHOLAR

  • Statistics:Men versus Women Child Abuse by liz

  • Troubling Admission of Supervised Visitation Records in Court by Stern/Oehme PDF SCHOLAR

  • Understanding the Batterer in Custody and Visitation Disputes by Lundy Bancroft PDF SCHOLAR

  • What is Fair for Children of Abusive Men? by Jack C. Straton, Ph.D. SCHOLAR

  • When Paradigms Collide: Protecting Battered Parents and Children by Clare Dalton SCHOLAR

  • Why He Kills by Caroline Overington PDF SCHOLAR

  • Wife Beating (the original classic) by liz

  • Will He Kill? How judges can assess risk by liz CITATIONS TO RESEARCH

    with link to Maryland Lethality Assessment Protocol

    Child Custody; joint custody; shared parenting; time-share

    Child custody issues are interconnected with issues of maternity and pregnancy, primary caregiving, parental alienation, child development (education and attachment issues), father’s rights, and other family law issues, as well as to issues involving forensic psychologists, guardians ad litem (GALs) and other mental health professionals in the family court system, so check related sections, including those on psychology for other relevant articles. NOTE: The LIZNOTES index page contains links to recommended off-site locations as well as the on-site articles. ALSO SEE, on this issue, the MYTHS AND FACTS pages.

  • Index: LIZNOTES Table of Contents.

  • Changing Custody in the Teen Years – why it’s a bad idea by liz

  • Joint Custody: The Road to Hell is Paved with Good Intentions by liz CITATIONS TO RESEARCH

  • Joint Custody – Those Joint Custody Studies: Debunking the Claims by liz CITATIONS TO RESEARCH

  • Joint Custody: Recent Research by liz CITATIONS TO RESEARCH

  • Joint Custody: Yet More Research Shows It Does Not Work by liz CITATIONS TO RESEARCH

  • Joint Custody Studies: Debunking Bauserman’s Meta-analysis by liz

  • Media Distortions by Fathers’ Rights Advocates by liz

  • Multiple Meanings of Equality: Case Study in Custody Litigation by Jane Gordon PDF SCHOLAR

  • Not Sharing but Equitable Distribution — Like for Furniture! cartoon

  • Not "Two Homes" — It’s No Home cartoon

  • Parenting Coordination Issues by liz

  • Presumptive Joint Custody: A Custodial Father Speaks Out by Derek Dahlsad

  • "Right of First Refusal" in Parenting Plans by liz PRACTITIONER ADVICE

  • Separating Siblings by G. Hochman, E. Feathers-Acuna, and A. Huston. SCHOLAR  CITATIONS TO RESEARCH

  • Shared Parenting Failing in Australia CourierMail 11/08 RESEARCH PR

  • Suggestions for Noncustodial Parent Holiday Involvement by liz

  • What the Experts Say: Post-Divorce Parenting and Child Wellbeing by Diane N. Lye DOC SCHOLAR

    Collaborative Law; Cooperative Law; Voluntary Mediation; etc.

    This category includes the various forms of ADR that involve client-controlled negotiated alternate dispute resolution in the family court system. Also see section on PSYCHOLOGY

  • Is Collaborative Law a Good Idea? by liz INFORMED CONSENT CAVEATS

  • Also see (liz) Collaborative Law and Cooperative law, generally

  • And see Florida Collaborative Lawyers Collaborative Law articles

    Guardians ad Litem; Parenting Coordinators; Custody Evaluators, etc.

    This category includes the various forms of so-called ADR (alternate dispute resolution) practitioners, such as GALs, parenting coordinators, parenting evaluators, forensic psychologists, recommending mediators, special masters, court-ordered therapists, other court-appointed mental health professionals, supervised visitation centers, and other profiteers of "therapeutic jurisprudence", whose methods involve — in non-criminal cases — intrusion and coercion under the threat of court sanctions, and actual or de facto extra-judicial decision-making. This website heavily criticizes all of these practices, which have multiple things wrong with them, not the least of which is denigration of due process, and the diminution of a publicly observable, regulated, and appealable "rule by law" by substituting the caprice of men and women. These practices have been promoted as "cures" for ailings of the court system and the litigants in it by self-serving persons who apparently are ignorant, or else just do not care about the harms they cause to children and their parents because they make money from the ideas they promote, churning profit in proceedings that fly in the face of the foundations of our justice system. The bulk of these materials are listed in the section on PSYCHOLOGY. Also see the sections on the specific substantive issues, such as child development or parental alienation.

  • Court-appt’d Parenting Evaluators and GALs: The Case for Abolition by Margaret Dore PDF SCHOLAR

  • Guardians ad Litem in Custody Litigation: The Case for Abolition by Richard Ducote PDF SCHOLAR

  • Guardians for Profit: LA Times expose, elder abuse by professional conservators by LA Times Staff

  • Parenting Coordination Issues (outline) by liz

  • Parenting Coordinators, Practical Considerations by liz

  • Troubling Admission of Supervised Visitation Records in Court by Stern/Oehme PDF SCHOLAR

  • What’s Wrong with Parenting Coordination by liz

    Family Court Issues, Activism, Corruption, Etc.

    Also see multiple text and graphical links at LIZNOTES as well as the off-site links at The Liz Library RESEARCH ROOM

  • In the News – Outrages

  • In the News – Justice’s Posterous

  • Judicial Blunder of the Year "Award" 2001 by National Coalition for Family Justice of California, Inc.

  • NOW 2002 Report on the Courts PDF

  • Outrages: Naming Names multiple contributors

  • Run, Mommy, Run! by Talia Carner

  • Smear Campaign: Psychologist versus Robin Yeamans by Robin Yeamans

    Fathers’ Rights Movement

  • Busting the Fatherhood Myth by Lily DeVilliers

  • Case for Father Custody, The email exchange between liz and FR Nick Szabo

  • Deconstructing Fatherhood Propaganda: liz versus Wade Horn editorial by liz

  • Deconstructing the Deconstructing: liz versus Silverstein and Auerbach editorial by liz

  • Disagreeing with Helen Alvare editorial by liz

  • Father’s Rights Joint Custody Propaganda from the AAML editorial notes by liz

  • Media Distortions by Fathers’ Rights Advocates editorial by liz

  • Myths and Facts about Fathers and Family Law CITATIONS TO RESEARCH

  • The National Fatherhood Initiative editorial criticism by liz

    with email comments by David Usher (FR lobbying 1995 welfare deform)

  • Politics of Fathers’ Rights Advocates by Mandy Dunn DOC CITATIONS TO RESEARCH

  • Response to "Be Thankful for Fathers" by Amy Ridenour editorial by liz

  • Stalking Through the Courts: the father’s rights movement by Janet Normalvanbreucher SCHOLAR

  • Index: "The Pig Page" – The Father’s Rights Movement In Their Own Words

  • "The Pig Page" – The Father’s Rights Movement In Their Own Words page 2

  • "The Pig Page" – The Father’s Rights Movement In Their Own Words page 3

  • About the Children’s Rights Council circa 1998 by liz

  • ANCPR readers defend Darren Mack, wife-murderer and judge shooter

  • Wolfgang Hirczy de Mino on Linda Elrod’s Washburn family law listserve

  • Dean Hughson (FR originator of web site sold to current owner of Divorce Source)

  • Anne P. Mitchell’s F.R.E.E. bit.listserve defending murderer

  • NCFC Dispute with ACFC (in-fighting)

  • Attorney Steven Imparl’s "men-law" listserve

  • More posts from the"men-law" listserve

  • And yet more posts from the"men-law" listserve

  • Ralph Underwager’s "Litany for Fathers" with Paedika pedophilia comments by liz

  • Ralph Underwager feeling misunderstood and falsely accused by liz

  • Response to Father’s Rightster "Pearle Harbour" by liz

  • Trish Wilson’s Articles and Materials

  • Warren Farrell and "family sex" (Off Our Backs interview) annotated by liz

  • Warren Farrell and "genitally caressing" (Penthouse interview) annotated by liz

  • complete html text of the 1977 Penthouse article "Incest: The Last Taboo"

  • jpg images of original magazine pages:    1  |   2  |   3  |   4  |   5  |   6

  • Farrell emails libeling liz, interspersed with comments by liz

  • More Farrell emails libeling liz, interspersed with responses by liz

  • Warren Farrell’s research distortions in "Myth of Male Power" by Cynthia Teague

  • Warren Farrell’s "Top Ten Holiday Suggestions" by liz

    Mother’s Rights: Maternity, Paternity and Pregnancy Issues

    Pregnancy and maternity/maternity issues are integrated with the issues of child custody, property and support issues rights, parental alienation defense theory used to counter allegations of abuse and otherwise discredit women’s testimony and childcare histories, child development (education and attachment issues), father’s rights, and other family law issues, so check related sections for other relevant articles. NOTE: The LIZNOTES index page contains links to recommended off-site locations as well as the on-site articles. Also see subsection on Attachment and Bonding in CHILD DEVELOPMENT, and Alimony in FAMILY LAW. For history of mothers’ rights, see THE WOMEN’S LIBRARY.

  • Index: LIZNOTES Table of Contents

  • Babies Need Their Mothers Beside Them by James J. McKenna, Ph.D.

  • Bias: examples of societal bias against mothers and motherhood by liz

  • Busting the Fatherhood Myth by Lily DeVilliers

    with Mark Evans RockAmerica Speech

  • Effects of Pregnancy by liz

    Effects of Abortion

    Reasons for a late-term abortion

  • Feminists on Alimony by liz ALIMONY THEORY ARGUMENT FOLLOWING QUOTATIONS

  • Gender-Blind, Gender-Neutral Equality: When "Equal" Isn’t by liz

  • Male Bashing? Brief history of family law politics. by liz

  • Multiple Meanings of Equality: Case Study in Custody Litigation by Jane Gordon PDF SCHOLAR

  • Myths and Facts about Motherhood and Marriage by liz CITATIONS TO RESEARCH

  • Reasking the Woman Question at Divorce by Penelope Bryan PDF SCHOLAR

  • Reconciling Marriage, Motherhood, and Feminism – One (traditional mother) by liz

  • Reconciling Marriage, Motherhood, and Feminism – Two (feminist mother) by liz

  • What is a Primary Parent? by liz

  • Why Divorced Mothers Should Get Alimony by liz

  • Why Most Primary Parents are Mothers by liz

              with Staying alive: Evolution, culture and women’s intra-sexual aggression, by Anne Campbell SCHOLAR

  • Why People Divorce by liz CITATIONS TO RESEARCH

    Parental Alienation Syndrome; hostile-aggressive parenting; enmeshment

    NOTE: The LIZNOTES index page contains links to recommended off-site locations as well as the on-site articles. Also see Section onPSYCHOLOGY, because the entertaining of alienation theory (by whatever name **) has become integral to the plying of the therapeutic jurisprudence trades in the family courts. It is a primary creator of the relationship engineering industries, and spawns work for "experts" opining pro and con, as well as GALs, supervised visitation centers, court-ordered therapists, custody evaluators, parenting coordinators, and all of their respective lawyers. [** hostile-aggressive parenting, enmeshment, intrusive parenting, intractable hostilities, high conflict, etc.]

  • Index: LIZNOTES Table of Contents

  • Battered Mothers’ Testimony Project Report by AZCADV PDF SCHOLAR

  • Breaking the Silence: PBS documentary aftermath, issues by Dominic Lasseur and Joan Meier

    with additional comments by liz

  • But I’ve Seen It! (No, you haven’t) by liz

  • Compulsive Tree-Planting Syndrome (liz to Gardner) by liz

    Responds to Gardner’s 1998 "Misperceptions" article in response to liz’s "But I’ve Seen It!" (above)

  • Criticism of Divorce Poison by Richard Warshak by Cheryl Metellus

  • Cross-Referral relationships of PAS purveyors, Joe Goldberg etc. by liz

  • Custody Switch by Jill Kramer Pac.Sun 10/01 PDF

  • Disciplining Divorcing Parents: Social Construction of Parental Alienation by F. Besset PDF SCHOLAR

  • Domestic Violence by Proxy by Joyanna Silberg, Ph.D. (Leadership Council) SCHOLAR

  • Evidentiary Admissibility of Parental Alienation Syndrome by Jennifer Hoult PDF SCHOLAR

  • Fairness and Accuracy in Evaluations of DV and Abuse by Smith and Coukos PDF SCHOLAR

  • Friendly Parent Concept: A Flawed Factor by Margaret Dore PDF SCHOLAR

  • Fetid Fathering Syndrome satire by liz in response to Turkat’s "Malicious Mother Syndrome"

    with complete text of Malicious Mother Syndrome by Ira Turkat CITATIONS TO RESEARCH

  • Lack of Empirical Data, Research or Scientific Basis by Justice for Children DOC CITATIONS TO RESEARCH

  • Letter to Richard Gardner satire by Karen Anderson

  • NCJFCJ Judges’ Guide to Custody Evaluations in Cases of Abuse (it’s not PAS) PDF SCHOLAR

  • Overblowing the Child Suggestibility Research by liz CITATIONS TO RESEARCH AND NEWS

  • PAS and Alienated Children — getting it wrong in child custody cases by Carol S. Bruch PDF SCHOLAR

  • Parental Alienation Syndrome: Getting It Wrong in Child Custody Cases Carol S. Bruch PDF SCHOLAR

  • See Prof. Bruch’s articles at Index: Carol S. Bruch

  • Parental Alienation Syndrome: A Dangerous Aura of Reliability by Cheri L. Wood TXT SCHOLAR

  • Parental Alienation Syndrome by Antonio Escudero RTF SPANISH SCHOLAR

  • Parental Alienation Syndrome: Frye v. Gardner in the Family Courts by Jerome Poliacoff PRACT

  • Parental Alienation Syndrome: Proponents Bear the Burden of Proof Robert E. Emery, Ph.D. off-site PDF SCHOLAR

  • PAS and Parental Alienation: Research Reviews by Joan S. Meier PDF SCHOLAR

  • Retaliation Against Professionals Who Report Child Abuse by Katherine Hine SCHOLAR

  • Richard Gardner and "Parental Alienation Syndrome" by Trish Wilson

  • Richard Gardner: A Self-Made Man by Judith M. Simon

  • Richard A. Gardner pedophilia quotes orig. compiled by Stephanie J. Dallam

  • Sound Research or Wishful Thinking in Custody Cases? by Carol S. Bruch PDF SCHOLAR

  • What is "PAS" and Why Is It So Often Used Against Mothers? by John E. B. Myers SCHOLAR

    with Richard Gardner and "Parental Alienation Syndrome" by Trish Wilson

    Psychology in the Family Court; Forensic; Therapeutic Jurisprudence

    See comments under Guardians ad Litem, and then go to section on PSYCHOLOGY. Also see the sections on the specific substantive issues, such as child development or parental alienation.

    Relocation; Post-divorce Move-aways

    Post-divorce relocation issues are interconnected with issues of maternity and pregnancy, primary caregiving, economics, parental alienation, child development (education and attachment issues), father’s rights, and other family law issues, as well as to issues involving forensic psychologists, guardians ad litem (GALs) and other mental health professionals in the family court system, so check related sections, including those on psychology for other relevant articles. NOTE: The LIZNOTES index page contains links to recommended off-site locations as well as the on-site articles.

  • Index: Articles of Carol S. Bruch

  • Sound Research or Wishful Thinking in Custody Cases? by Carol S. Bruch PDF SCHOLAR

  • Index: LIZNOTES Table of Contents

  • Braver Post-divorce Relocation Study: The real findings editorial by liz

  • Braver et al. Post-divorce Relocation Study: Commentary by Judith Wallerstein SCHOLAR

    Criticizes "Relocation of Children After Divorce and Children’s Best interests"

  • Constitutional Right to Travel by DiAnn Lindquist PRACTITIONER ARGUMENT

  • Does Moving After Divorce Damage Kids? by Norval Glenn and David Blankenhorn SCHOLAR

  • Post-Divorce Relocation: Policy Considerations by Scott Altman SCHOLAR

  • Index: LaMusga case Information Page Items below in reverse chronological order.

  • Mother’s Petition for Rehearing 05/14/04 PDF

  • California Supreme Court decision 04/29/04 PDF

  • Mother’s Response Brief to Shear and Warshak 10/17/03 PDF PDF

  • Emails by members of Assoc of Certified Family Law Specialists, CA 08/11/03

  • Mother’s Motion re Best Interests Order 07/29/03

  • Mother’s Objection to Untimely Briefs by Warshak and Shear 07/26/03 DOC

  • Press Release: Kim Robinson (mother’s lawyer) 07/08/03

  • Letter from mother to father announcing relocation to AZ 07/08/03

  • Press Release: National Coalition for Family Justice of California, Inc. 07/07/03

  • Amicus Curiae Public Statement: background and case details 07/03

  • Shear Amicus Brief (for the Therapeutic Juri$prudence crowd) PDF cover PDF

  • Richard Warshak Amicus Brief (written by Sanford Braver) PDF

  • Press Release: Judith Wallerstein 06/30/03

  • Law Professor’s Amicus Brief 05/21/03 PDF

  • California Women’s Law Center Amicus Brief PDF

  • Judith Wallerstein Amicus Brief 05/12/03 PDF

  • Mother’s California Supreme Court Brief 01/17/03 PDF

  • Father’s California Supreme Court Brief 10/18/02 PDF

  • Decision: LaMusga Court of Appeal 05/10/02 PDF

  • Decision: In re Marriage of Burgess 04/15/96

  • Press Release: National Coalition for Family Justice of California, Inc.

    Research "Myths and Facts" pages

    These pages, and the pages on custody evaluation and the joint custody, contain literally thousands of research citations. The sociological and psychological research on families and child well-being impacts public policy and the issues of child custody in family law. The research frequently is misrepresented, and mis-cited by mental health professionals, lawyers, forensic psychologists and others, as well as interest groups lobbying for laws. The "facts" on the research myths and facts pages refer to the "fact" of the actual research findings. Often what is cited instead is the "spin" or speculation in researchers’ writeups. These pages are presented as a commentary on the flimsy rationales (of record) given for much of current public policy. Also review the other sections pertaining to the issues impacted by the research, such as child custody, parental alienation theory, and other family law issues, as well as the section on therapeutic jurisprudence, which in the family courts is economic opportunism (not science) under the pretext that engineering family affectional relationships is within the ability of mental health "science" to accomplish (this is misrepresentation), and moreover, that it is an appropriate goal of the government and court system using the specious rationale that these interventions are necessary or helpful for children’s wellbeing (while ignoring the many iatrogenic effects on both families and the over-burdened courts).Also see subsection on Child Custody in FAMILY LAW

  • Critique of Kelly and Lamb Infant Overnight "research" literature by liz CITATIONS TO RESEARCH

    This paper is used as a teaching illustration of how to do critical reading, and of how the research is distorted and misrepresented in the sociology and psychology literature. It is a line-by-line analysis of propaganda techniques, logic errors, and outright fraud. The Lamb and Kelly article is presented in its entirety, interlineated with discussion and commentary, as well as annotations. The widely-cited paper,Using Child Development Research to Make Appropriate Custody and Access Decisions for Young Children (2000), is an example of pseudo-science posing as objective scholarship by "researchers" or "scientists".But it’s a political position paper advocating (without sound basis for doing so), for joint custody for babies and very young children.

  • Index: LIZNOTES Table of Contents

  • Braver Post-divorce Relocation Study: The real findings by liz

  • Myths and Facts about ADR and Forensic Expertise in Family Court by liz

  • Myths and Facts about Fatherhood and Families by liz CITATIONS TO RESEARCH

  • Myths and Facts about Motherhood and Marriage by liz CITATIONS TO RESEARCH

  • Myths and Facts about Stepmothers and Mother Absence by liz CITATIONS TO RESEARCH

  • Myths and Facts in Wade Horn’s Fatherhood Promotion by liz CITATIONS TO RESEARCH

  • Response to Wade Horn’s "The Importance of Being Father" by liz

  • Myths and Facts about Parenting and Children’s Education by liz CITATIONS TO RESEARCH

  • Statistical myths about child abuse in mother-absent versus father-absent households by liz

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    FATHERLESS CHILDREN STORIES

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  • "Fatherless America" list of famous fatherless children (25% of American presidents)

  • Fatherless Children Stories in reading order by liz CITATIONS TO RESEARCH

  • Myths and Facts about Fatherhood  |  more research  |  custody reseach CITATIONS TO RESEARCH

    PSYCHOLOGY; CUSTODY EVALUATIONS; THERAPY

    Forensic Psychology; Guardians ad Litem; Therapeutic Jurisprudence

    The sociological and psychological research on families and child well-being impacts public policy and the issues of child custody in family law. The research frequently is misrepresented, and mis-cited by mental health professionals, lawyers, forensic psychologists and others, as well as interest groups lobbying for laws. Also review the sections pertaining to the issues impacted by the "therapeutic jurisprudence", such as child custody, parental alienation theory, research pertaining to child development, the subsection for research Myths and Factsin FAMILY LAW, and other family law issues. Also see the subsection on Child Custody in FAMILY LAW. The Therapeutic Jurisprudence index page contains links to recommended off-site locations as well as the on-site articles

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    This section of the website contains current public material from on-going research being conducted around the United States and in Canada by various scholars and organizations who are sharing findings, as well as links to articles and off-site locations on the issue of the harmful use of psychology and psychological theories in the family court systems. Therapeutic jurisprudence in the family courts, i.e. a "mental health approach to the law" substitutes the opinions of mental health practitioners for traditional evidence and decision-making procedures. Because these persons actually do not have any kind of "expertise" to opine this way, what originally was thought to be a helpful idea (in this medicalized and psychologized world) has become merely economic opportunism, harming not only the litigants and children in the system as well as the court system itself, but also perverting substantive and procedural law. It is not science, but compensated yenta-ism that has permeated the courts under the pretexts that engineering family affectional relationships is within the ability of mental health "science" practitioners to accomplish, and that this is an appropriate goal of the government, court system, and state police power because children "need" something it has to offer. See additional comments on this index page here. If you are interested in activism, helping with research in your state, or contributing articles or materials on "therapeutic jurisprudence" contact cce-research@argate.net

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  • Parenting Coordination Issues by liz

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  • Psychology in Court: The Detectives by liz

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  • Psychology in Court: Discovery of Test Data by liz

  • Reevaluating the Evaluators (overview of the problem) by liz CITATIONS TO RESEARCH

    Custody Evaluator Quotes by liz (companion to above article)

  • Socialization, Personality Development, and the Child’s Environments by Judith Rich Harris SCHOLAR

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  • What’s Wrong with Parenting Coordination by liz

  • Why "Therapeutic Jurisprudence" Must Be Eliminated From Our Family Courts by liz

  • Why "Therapeutic Jurisprudence" Must Be Eliminated From Our Courts by liz (pub. version)

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    Reading Rooms

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    Jan
    10

    PAS father- Dr. Richard Gardner’s Autopsy – Suicide

     

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    "The truth is the engine of our judicial system, and if you compromise the truth, the whole process is lost." -
    US SpecialProsecutor
    Patrick Fitzgerald

    Suicide

    Dr. Richard Gardner’s Complete Autopsy Report

     

    Dr. Richard Gardner, M.D.
    born April 28, 1931

    Committed Suicide
    May 25, 2003

    "CAUSE OF DEATH:

    Incised wounds of chest and neck."

    Allow us to disabuse the pro-abusers. Dr. Richard Gardner’s son told the New York Times that his father committed suicide. Contrary to false assertions made by the father’s rights movement, Richard Gardner most certainly did not die peacefully in his sleep.

    It was far uglier than that.

    The Bergen County (New Jersey) Medical Examiner reported that Dr. Richard Gardner died a gory, bloody and violent death – from his own hand. Gardner took an overdose of prescription medication while stabbing himself several times in the neck and chest. Gardner plunged a butcher knife deep into his heart.

    The medical examiner removed the knife from Gardner’s chest and listed the stabbing wounds as the cause of death.

    (Here is Gardner’s autopsy report and the NY Times obituary.)

    County Of Bergen
    Department of Public Safety
    Medical Examiner Autopsy Report

    May 27, 2003
    02030860.aut
    GARDNER, Richard A.

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    New York Times

    June 9, 2003, Monday

    METROPOLITAN DESK

    Richard Gardner, 72, Dies;
    Cast Doubt on Abuse Claims

    By STUART LAVIETES
    "Dr. Richard A. Gardner, a psychiatrist and psychoanalyst who developed a theory about parental alienation syndrome, which he said could lead children in high-conflict custody cases to falsely accuse a parent of abuse, died on May 25 at his home in Tenafly, N.J. He was 72.
    The cause was suicide, said Dr. Gardner’s son, Andrew, who said his father had been distraught over the advancing symptoms of reflex sympathetic dystrophy, a painful neurological syndrome.
    Dr. Gardner, who testified in more than 400 child custody cases, maintained that children who suffered from parental alienation syndrome had been indoctrinated by a vindictive parent and obsessively denigrated the other parent without cause.
    In severe cases, he recommended that courts remove children from the homes of the alienating parents and place them in the custody of the parents accused of abuse.
    His theory has provoked vehement opposition from some mental health professionals, child abuse experts and lawyers. Critics argue that it lacks a scientific basis, noting that the American Psychiatric Association and the American Medical Association have not recognized it as a syndrome.
    They also say that the theory is biased against women, as allegations of abuse are usually directed at fathers, and that it is used as a weapon by lawyers seeking to undermine a mother’s credibility in court." …
    … "His marriage to Lee Gardner ended in divorce. In addition to his son, of Cherry Hill, N.J., he is survived by two daughters, Nancy Gardner Rubin of Potomac, Md., and Julie Gardner Mandelcorn, of Newton, Mass.; his mother, Amelia Gardner of Manhattan; eight grandchildren; and his partner, Natalie Weiss.
    Correction: June 14, 2003, Saturday An obituary on Monday about Dr. Richard A. Gardner, a psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, misstated his position at Columbia University. He was a clinical professor of psychiatry in the division of child and adolescent psychiatry — an unpaid volunteer — not a professor of child psychiatry."
    End of Obituary Excerpt

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    A comment about Dr. Richard Gardner’s suicide released by the last man to cross examine him, attorney Richard Ducote:

    ¬Ý¬ÝJune 1, 2003

    "Parental Alienation Syndrome is a bogus, pro-pedophillic fraud concocted by Richard Gardner. I was the last attorney to cross examine Gardner. In Paterson, NJ, he admitted that he has not spoken to the Dean of Columbia’s medical school for over 15 years, and has not had hospital admitting privileges for over 25 years.

    He has not been court appointed to do anything for decades.

    The only two appellate courts in the country who have considered the question of whether PAS meets the Frye test, i.e., whether it is generally accepted in the scientific community, said it does not. As Dr. Paul Fink, former president of the American Psychiatric Association has stated, Dr. Gardner and PAS should be only a "pathetic footnote" in psychiatric history. Gardner and his bogus theory have done untold damage to sexually and physically abused children and their protective parents. PAS has been rejected by every reputable organization considering it.

    In a Florida case in which I was recently involved, when the judge insisted on a Frye hearing, Gardner simply did not show up. Perhaps because he finally realized that the entire nation was on to his scam, he committed suicide on May 25. Let’s pray that his ridiculous, dangerous PAS foolishness died with him."

    Richard Ducote
    attorney at law
    New Orleans, LA

    Dr. Richard Gardner, seen here at age 67 in February 1999, authored the money making PAS theory that made him a very rich man. Gardner committed suicide on May 25, 2003, plunging a seven inch butcher knife into his neck and heart. Gardner testified mostly for men, charging $500 per hour, routinely recommending custody to abusers, deprogramming children and threat therapy for mothers. Gardner was against society’s overly moralistic and punitive reaction to pedophiles.

    To get a better understanding of the damage Dr. Richard Gardner did in his lifetime, go to this link:

    Dr. Richard Gardner – Parental Alienation Syndrome

    "I know no safe depository of the ultimate powers of society but the people themselves; and if we think them not enlightened enough to exercise their control with a wholesome discretion, the remedy is not to take it from them, but to inform their discretion."
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    05
    Jan
    10

    The Worst of “Parental Alienation Syndrome” Inventor Richard Gardner

    The Worst of “Parental Alienation Syndrome” Inventor Richard Gardner

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    The Worst of Richard Gardner (Deceased 2003)

    Gardner’s self-published work is extremely deficient scientifically, exhibits extreme gender-bias toward women and assumes that all women are vindictive and all children are liars. This “syndrome” he has purported is not based on systematic research, instead developed from personal observation and prejudices.  Gardner never tested his theory, it has never been subjected to peer review, and most of its foundational assumptions have been disproved. Virtually every symptom Gardner describes as evidence of Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) is open to opposing interpretations. PAS is not recognized as a valid medical syndrome by either the AMA or the APA.  Gardner’s recommendations to send children to juvenile detention centers and mothers to jail for reporting abuse fly in the face of the goal of any therapy or treatment–establishing trust and “do no harm”. This is nothing more than one man’s opinion which is now being used across the country as a slick legal defense for abusive parents to gain custody of their victims and exact revenge upon the protective parent. It should not be relied upon by any reasonable person. Mental health professionals should be cautioned against using such an unscientific and harmful ideology in custody evaluations, as it could potentially result in ethics violations and malpractice claims by protective parents and their children who have been irreparably harmed by incompetent assessments.

    It is amazing that such misogynistic junk science could be given the time of day in a court of law, but it has.  Gardner’s work has permeated and corrupted custody legislation, judicial training, custody evaluator training, and mental health professional training to the detriment of women and children.  Protective mothers must be aware of how this purported “syndrome” can and will be used against them and their children in child custody litigation.  The first step is identifying just how bizarre Gardner’s writings and thought processes were:

    Here are just a few of the outrageous statements that Richard Gardner has written in his own books published by his own vanity press:

    • “Pertinent to my theory here is that pedophilia also serves procreative purposes. Obviously, it does not serve such purposes on the immediate level in that children cannot become pregnant nor can they make others pregnant.
    • However, the child who is drawn into sexual encounters at an early age is likely to become highly sexualized and crave sexual experiences during the prepubertal years. Such a “charged up child” is more likely to become sexually active after puberty and more likely, therefore, to transmit his or her genes to his or her progeny at an early age.
    • The younger the survival machine at the time sexual urges appear, the longer will be the span of procreative capacity, and the greater the likelihood the individual will create more survival machines in the next generation. The ideal then – from DNA’s point of view – is for the child to be sexually active very early, to have a highly sexualized childhood, and begin the time of puberty. This increases the likelihood that more survival machines will be produced for the next generation. (…)
    • This reflects society’s repression of the animal within us: a male animal who has the potential for rape and a female animal who, by merely a small extension of permissible attitudes, may become masochistic – thereby gaining sexual pleasure from being beaten, bound and otherwise made to suffer. It may very well be that, for some masochistic women, allowing themselves to be beaten into submission is the price they are willing to pay for gaining the gratification of receiving the sperm.”
    • Gardner’s sociobiologist ideology has him endorse all “paraphilias” (merely atypical sexual behaviors) as “serving the purposes of species survival” by “their ability to enhance the general level of sexual excitation in society and thereby increase the likelihood that people will involve themselves in activities that are more directly contributory to the reproductive (and by extension, species survival) process”.
    • This extends not only to pedophilia but even to zoophilia and, yes, necrophilia. In the same essay Gardner writes: “Yet, the necrophiliac is still keeping (the likelihood) of heterosexual involvement with a person who is more likely to conceive.”
    • Gardner says that “the mother’s own suppressed and repressed sexual fantasies are projected onto the child and father. By visualizing the father having a sexual experience with the child, the mother is satisfying vicariously her own desires to be the recipient of such overtures and activities.”
    • According to Gardner, 90% of “alienators” are women.
    • “In custody litigation,…the vast majority of children who profess sexual abuse are fabricators.”
    • ”What I am against is the excessively moralistic and punitive reaction that many members of our society have toward pedophiles … (going) far beyond what I consider to be the gravity of the crime.”
    • “…there is a bit of pedophilia in every one of us.”
    • When a child has been sexually abused and feels guilt about it, Gardner suggests, the child may be helped to appreciate that “sexual encounters between an adult and a child are not universally considered to be reprehensible acts. The child might be told about other societies in which such behavior was and is considered normal.” If sexual urges continue after the abuse ends, Gardner suggests such children be encouraged to masturbate.
    • As for the alienating mother, Gardner suggests that vibrators can be useful and “one must try to overcome any inhibition she may have with regard to their use.”
      . . . . An apparent benefit of the mother’s use of a vibrator is that “her diminished guilt over masturbation will make it easier for her to encourage the practice in her daughter, if this is warranted.” With this imagined solution, Gardner believes, the mother’s “increased sexuality may lessen the need for her husband to return to their daughter for sexual gratification.”

    All of the above quotes are from Gardner’s self-published True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse: A Guide for Legal and Mental Health Professionals, Creative Therapeutics, 1992, as reprinted in Ralph Underwager’s self-published journal “Issues in Child Abuse Accusations”, Spring 1993, pp. 115-118, under the title “A Theory About the Variety of Human Sexual Behavior” and Richard A. Gardner, M.D. , The Parental Alienation Syndrome (1992).

    • “What would a good mother do if her child told her of sexual abuse by his or her father?”, asked film produce Garland Waller during a videotaped interview of Richard Gardner for her award-winning documentary, Small Justice.  His answer: “What would she say? Don’t you say that about your father. If you do, I’ll beat you.”

    It boggles the mind to think that this man’s ideas have been more persuasive to some judges and evaluators than the sworn testimony of abused women and children.

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    05
    Jan
    10

    The Seventh Battered Mothers Custody Conference: Schedule and Interviews

     

    The Seventh Battered Mothers Custody Conference:

    Now That We Know, What Are We Doing About It?

    January 8th – 10th, 2010 (Friday evening, 6 p.m. – Sunday mid-afternoon)

    The Holiday Inn Turf on Wolf Road, Albany, New York

    Friday, Jan. 8th

    Registration: Friday, January 9th, 4:30 – 6:00 p.m.

     

     

    Downloadable schedule here.

    Throughout the weekend: Book sales table; Silent Auction; Exhibitor tables

    Evening Main Session

    6:00 – 6:15 p.m. Welcome Mo Therese Hannah, Ph.D., Chair

    6:15 – 6:30 Opening Greeting: Representative from NCADV

    Opening Address: TBA

    6:30 – 7:30 Angela Shelton

    7:30 – 8:00 Garland Waller

    8:00 – end Lundy Bancroft with Janice Levinson, Protective Mothers Alliance

    Saturday, January 10th

    Morning Main Session

    8:30 – 9:15 Main Session, Keynote I: Wendy Murphy

    9:15 – 10:15 Barry Goldstein & Mo Hannah: Now That We Know, What are We Going to Do About It?

    10:15 – 10:30 Break

    10:30 – 11:15 Dr. Joy Silberg

    11:15-12:30 All Faculty Q & A

    12:30 – 1:30 Lunch

    Afternoon Main Session

    1:30 – 2:15 Judge Mike Brigner & Joan Zorza

    2:15 – 3:00 Hofheimer panel

    3:00 – 3:15 Break

    3:15 – 4:00 Erikson, Barnard, Beeker panel

    4:00 – 5:00 Concurrent Workshops Session I

    1. Karin Huffer’s panel

    2. Marlene Debak

    3. VOW panel

    4. Kristin Hofheimer

    5. Renee Beeker & Paul Holdorf

    5:00 – 6:00 p.m. Concurrent Workshops Session II

    6. Massachusetts Protective Mothers for Custodial Justice

    7. Dara Carlin

    8. Ursula Williams & Mattie Herald

    9. Marcia Pappas

    10. Anne Grant

    Break for dinner on your own–6:00 – 7:15

    7:15 – 8:00 Coffee and Cookies with Ben Atherton Zeman

    8:00 — end Connie Valentine, Karen Anderson, the Courageous Kids, and friends: Let’s Get Organized!

    Sunday, Jan. 10th Morning Main Session

    8:30 — 9:15 Main Session, Keynote III Toby Kleinman

    9:15 – 10:00 Karen Borders

    10:00 – 10:15 Break

    10:15 – 11:15 Robin Yeamans, Karen Winner, & Nancy Erickson panel

    11:15 – 12:15 Concurrent Workshop Session III

    1. Liane Leedom, M.D.

    2. Kathleen Russell, Center for Judicial Excellence

    3. Linda Marie Sacks

    4. Irene Weiser, Stop Family Violence

    12:30 – 2:00 Closing Luncheon; All Faculty Q & A

    2:00 Close

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    05
    Jan
    10

    Man vs. Woman: The Grudge Match –by; Free us now

    Man vs. Woman: The Grudge Match

    Posted on January 4, 2010 by freemenow

    Another Rant By: BettyJean Kling

    This is the result of the all boys club that has absolutely no respect for women. It is also the grudge match a long time coming. Woman used to sit and take whatever a man doled out – then they started to stand up for their rights resulting in arrests and embarrassment for the batterer. In retaliation, those with means found a way to discredit the women, get away with battery and use the court system to take away their children.

    Grudge Synonyms:
    1. bitterness, rancor, malevolence, enmity, hatred. Grudge, malice, spite refer to ill will held against another or others. A grudge is a feeling of resentment harbored because of some real or fancied wrong: to hold a grudge because of jealousy; He has a grudge against him. 2. Malice is the state of mind that delights in doing harm, or seeing harm done, to others, whether expressing itself in an attempt seriously to injure or merely in sardonic humor: malice in watching someone’s embarrassment; to tell lies about someone out of malice. 3. Spite is petty, and often sudden, resentment that manifests itself usually in trifling retaliations: to reveal a secret out of spite. 4. envy.

    So women want equality do they- well said the men- try this on for size is what they thought – I surmise! Now it has become vogue to turn the tables on a woman.

    How else can we explain a judge that feels the face of this woman must deserve what she got from a man with a record for battery, booze, drugs and more and more? The judge not only disrespects the woman but respects the lout enough to give the child to him in spite of his growing criminal record.

    Apparently any man is better than any woman to these judges because this is happening to millions of women. Many are not only losing their children to their abusers but are forced out of their homes and into the streets. Some are forced to turn over their entire pittance of a paycheck for child support and now live in their cars.

    It appears these judges are taking it out on some women for alimony or child support they ( the judges and lawyers) may have been rightfully paying for their own children and who now delights in watching women live in cars and struggle to see their children. 

    With this obvious male  bias in the courts their can be no justice. What we have are Kangaroo Courts full of rouge lawyers and judges patting each others asses one lies and the other swears to it. Allso remember the statistics – nearly 50% of the divorces are do to Porn and or Online chat rooms cheating with minor girls- these are our lawyers and judges. Remember the NY State Senator Hiram Monserrate who was sworn into  office a mere week after trying to carve his girlfriend’s eye out- and the judge who gave him a slap on the wrist- he still sits on the NY bench. They both do!Woman Haters

    Are we going to sit by and allow this? Again there are more of us then there are of them- Let’s go Gals!

    Contributed by: www.rightsformothers.com
    The lady (Claudine Dombrowski) in this picture was violently beaten by Hal Richardson, the father of her baby and ex-husband.  Now Hal Richardson isn’t exactly going to win any father awards this year for this, and his criminal record keeps growing (Battery, Attempted Battery, Battery of a Law Enforcement Officer, Obstruction of Legal Process, and Possession of Marijuana and violation of Open Container law.)

    Shawnee County Judge James P. Buchele refused to permit testimony in this case because his docket was full.  If that wasn’t bad enough, Claudine was ordered by this Judge to move back to Shawnee County so Hal Richardson could be closer to her daughter and ordered her not to call the police when dealing with her husband, all calls had to go through her case manager first.  Allegations of death threats, rape and the killing of her daughter were what the Judge was not letting get into testimony.  Outrage, to say the least, read the harrowing account of a lawyer’s outrage in this matter here.

    As usual standard operating procedure, the family court gave custody of her child to her abuser.  With Hal Richardson having sole custody for YEARS of child, with only very limited contact for Claudine, supervised at that, people should be outraged.  I am.  Can you image…she went for long spells not even seeing her only child, now she’s worked up to a whopping 2 HOURS a week, supervised.

    Filed under: Corruption, Domestic Violence, ERA, Liberal Politics, Media Bias, Misogyny/Sexism,The Majority United, Violence against women, Women’s Rights | Tagged: Bettyjean Kling, Blatant sexism, Domestic Violence, ERA, Feminism, Male domination, protesting sexism, The Majority United, Violence against women | Leave a Comment »

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      Here’s a great article by Corey Pein in the Santa Fe Reporter. I’ve often asked, is she a liar or is he a denier? The stereoptype that women lie for malicious reasons is deeply embedded in our society (and certainly the Fathers Rights groups capitalize on this).  How many know that denial is the trademark of [...]
    • Male-centric media
      Mainstream media (MSM) is mostly male-centric media (MCM), with 80% or more representation of (mostly white) males. MCM cannot adequately represent diverse societies, let alone provide opportunities for women and minorities to have a voice. Here’s a great post in the Huffington Post: New media embraces old media’s male-centricity
    • Badvertising
      It’s been a busy week for bad ads. Here’s a “men wear the pants” ad from Dockers: Dockers Here’s 2 posts relating to the Docker’s ad: Bitch Echidne of the Snakes Step away from the salad and get your hands dirty? Is that really the message Dockers wants to send men. Um, salad bars will be way more helpful than slamming bac […]

     

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